“When I bring my clouds over the earth and the bow is seen in the clouds, I will remember my covenant that is between me and you and every living creature of the flesh. And the waters shall never again become a flood to destroy all flesh. When the bow is in the clouds, I will see it and remember the everlasting covenant between God and every living creature of all flesh that is on the earth.”
– Genesis 9:14-16 (ESV)
A sun dog isn’t exactly a rainbow. Light from the sun reflects through ice crystals in the air, causing rainbow-like effects on either side of the sun. It’s beautiful, but no clouds typically occur around its formation – at least, not that I’m aware of.
Nevertheless, when I saw a sun dog a few weeks ago, I thought to myself, “God is remembering something right now.” And I wondered what it was.
I saw another sun dog today, and I think He’s remembering things still. Today, I think He’s remembering the Hagars of this world – every single one since the very first. By Hagars, I’m referring to the women who are mistreated, taken advantage of, and abused. The women who find themselves pregnant in deserts of poverty of confusion. The women who are rejected and abandoned, but still have little lives to care for. The women who don’t know the truth and either believe that the end of their lives or their little one’s lives are the only way out of the desert . . . that they must end their children’s lives to live their best lives . . . or that the value of human life is relative.
I think God is remembering those women today, and grieving their brokenness and destitution. To the women out their who have had abortions, or who have wanted them, may God pour out His compassion into your minds, bodies, and lives. To those women: God has established a covenant of freedom for you to enter into. May you know that He is Lord, and may you remember where you have come from in light of where He wants to lead you. May you accept the atonement He has made for all you have done, and may you never open your mouth again because of your shame. Instead, may you find a place of joyful and forgiven belonging in His presence.
I also think that God is remembering children whose lives have been ended by the hands of professionals who insist that the death of one is necessary to the vitality of the other. I want to preach my perspective on abortion here, but I won’t. I want to discuss what I believe about the idea that anti-abortion and pro-life are wholly synonymous, but this post isn’t the place for that. In this post, all I’m going to say is that I think God is remembering and grieving the children whose lives were wrongfully extinguished.
Lastly, I want to share something I wrote on Facebook today. I wrote it for the women in my extended community (that is, for friends and friends of friends), but it’s possible that a reader of mine needs to hear it. And while my resources are certainly less accessible to those who aren’t in my vicinity, my email address is not, and I hope that if this applies to you, you can find people in your community who would pretty much say the same thing:
I want to say this to all of my girls and their girl friends:
If you, or someone you know, is pregnant, and needs help, please reach out. I want my friendship and my home to be safe places for you to talk about this stuff – whether you’ve been the victim of violence or just made a mistake.
If can’t talk to me, I know a lot other women to refer you to. Some of them are midwives and doulas. Some of them are married and others are single. Some of them have kids and some don’t. Some of them have had sex before marriage and others haven’t. ALL of them will treat you with compassion, grace, and dignity. And confidentiality. I wouldn’t direct you (or your friend who is reaching out on your behalf) to someone who I thought would reject, shame, or belittle you. I also wouldn’t direct you to an abortion clinic, but whether you’re a stranger or my bff, myself and/or the other women in my diverse, amazing circle of friends would love to support you emotionally, spiritually and physically to the very best of our abilities. We can direct you to people who will support you, but not if you stay silent.
And to my single girls especially: some of you have probably lost a child, and told very few people or nobody at all. If that’s you, please know that you don’t have to carry that grief alone. There are women here in your community who want to listen to and love you. ♥️
To all who have had, or even facilitated and advocated, abortions: may you find joy and forgiveness and community in the presence of the Messiah who offers you abundant life.
All my love,